Tradition is defined as “the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being passed on in this way.” Some of these traditions are fun and have a wonderful meaning attached. Others happen simply out of circumstances years before and no one really knows why they take place. It is no secret that when new people are integrated into our lives it is hard to navigate how to honor the history while determining if the traditions that are passed on are healthy, effective, or necessary. This is true in ministry just as much as in marriage.
When it comes to traditions in ministry this week Dusty and I talk about what it looks like to first of all come to an understanding of what traditions, especially around the holidays, are already in place in the church. Then determining if they are traditions that should remain or if it is something that can be transitioned away from. It is important to make sure the history of the church is being honored while still focusing on growth and forward movement. Making sure the congregation is coming to the table with open hands, being willing to hold on to the things that need to be held onto and letting go of those that don’t are all part of the process.
When it comes to marriage the blending of 2 families is, almost inevitably going to bring with it varying thoughts and feelings on how holidays should work out. Who to visit, when and what to eat, how to prepare the meal, dressing vs. stuffing. All of those things are discussions that are often had. Sometimes it’s talked about at length prior to the marriage. Other times little traditions are discovered slowly over time. No matter how it all comes to light, making sure that everyone is being heard, understood, and doesn’t feel left out or ignored is important.
So take a listen. Join in on the conversation and let us know what traditions you have and how you handle incorporating everything!