Turn on the Television and you will see show after show all about couples seeing the need to hire individuals to follow and take notes on their spouse’s daily activities. There are hidden cameras placed through out homes and offices, secret apps installed on technological devices to gain access to social media accounts and communication records, and a constant lingering question of whether or not a husband can trust his wife or if a wife can trust her husband.
And sadly, in most of those television show scenarios we find that there was just cause for the tracking down of a spouse. Trust is lost and often times the relationship is ended in an ugly and bitter manner.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Today’s passage, Proverbs 31:11-12 tell us that a marriage can and should be the exact opposite.
Proverbs 31:11-12 says,
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. She will reward him with good, not evil all the days of her life.
This woman is trustworthy. She is worthy of the trust that her husband has in her.
So what does being trustworthy mean? Again we start by turning to Miriam-Webster to see what the basic definition of the word means. Miriam-Webster says that ‘trustworthy’ means ‘worthy of confidence; dependable’
Not a bad way to describe this concept but I think that we can probably do a little bit better. My professor, Dr. Pat Ennis, defined ‘trustworthy’ as
A firm belief or confidence in the honesty, integrity, reliability, and justice of an individual.
Wow! There is so much packed into that little sentence. So let’s break it down.
First of all lets look as “confidence.” Confidence can be described as the quality or state of being certain. That is a great word picture. This means my husband can be 100% certain that he can trust me. Looking at the verse we see her husband’s whole heart trusted in her. He was certain, completely.
The next word that needs to be unpacked is “integrity” Integrity is best known as being complete, unimpaired, or perfect condition. It is also known as uprightness honesty, and sincerity. So again, looking back at our focus verse we see this woman’s husband is 100% certain in his wife’s unimpaired honesty and sincerity. He has no reason to question the things she says or the activities she participates in because she is walking in uprightness.
The Character of a Trustworthy Woman
Developing a Trustworthy Lifestyle Within The Home
Characteristics of Integrity
Integrity is a big key of this idea of being trustworthy so lets take a closer look at what the characteristics of integrity really are.
First of all, you have to have an attitude of excellence. You have to make it a priority to strive to have an attitude of excellence. When you are serving your family you have to remember that it is your ministry and we are to serve in our areas of ministry excellently.
Secondly, you are in a season of life. At some point that season will change, but no matter what we are to walk in diligence and faithfulness within that season. We need to be 100% present in the season not looking back longingly at what once was or looking ahead dreaming of what is to come. Planning for the future is fine, but not if it means that your entire focus will be drawn away from the present and the things that are happening now.
Third trait is is to make a choice for personal purity. And often times this requires finding a level of accountability. Having those people in your life that will hold you accountable helps to build and establish the trustworthiness that we are trying to cultivate.
Lastly, cultivating a consistent walk with the Lord. If your heart, mind, and lifestyle is tuned in and focused on the things the Lord has given you there will be no time, desire, or opportunity for the trust that has been built to be destroyed. When your walk with the Lord is strong and consistent it is easy to remain walking uprightly.